@wanda - Actually, moving on with other women is not entirely correct with a Saturn in 12H transit: He'll meet a lot of women, yes, but it's likely that few (if any) of them will figure in his (or their) long-term plans. Saturn in the 12H is a time of dissolution, when
everything you thought you knew you could rely on is taken apart, piece by piece (including your sanity).
It's not your problem, though: As you've said, you've already processed this relationship. He hasn't. The best you can say is that you understand what he's going through, and that the next 2-3 years are going to be pretty lonely - because that's how 12H Saturn transits
are. The words are going to seem
very hollow to him now (and tell him you understand this), but he's going to have to learn to have faith - because his entire world is going to be turned upside down and shaken like a snow globe. Everything he
thought he could rely on is going to dissolve right under his feet.
I
also wrote to an old flame during my 12H Saturn transit.
She's actually the one that inspired me to get into astrology, funnily enough. But I recognised that there was no future between us, and there could never be - because, even apart from our respective situations, she was an entirely different person from the woman I knew 20+ years ago, so I ended things properly (
this time - our parting was also somewhat wild) and wrote her a nice goodbye letter. If I bump into her again for any reason, there will
not be any awkwardness, because I know I handled the situation with sufficient grace.
I don't think I will, though.
But Saturn in the 12H is
intangible - you often can't take anything new out with you. Only spirituality, and you get to develop
that during periods of being alone. It might seem mean, cruel or simply inhumane - but you can't hide from yourself anymore, because Saturn will keep everyone else at arm's length! Saturn
doesn't take no for an answer, either: If you resist those lessons, you will likely end up inside a prison or an asylum - so that appointment with yourself is
not missed. Rather than filling a void in your life with someone else, it's better to try and fill it with
yourself. *
* I know it sounds
so glib: I
also know, from painful experience, that putting this into practice is
nowhere near as easy as reading about it! Finding yourself is an incredibly personal journey, and if you try to copy what everyone else does, you'll end up frustrated and demotivated. Beware of any spiritual mentor who tells you that it's their way or the highway, or even says they won't help you further until you're back "on track".
(If you ever end up mentoring anyone else, the
least you can do is possess the grace to understand that their lessons are likely very different from yours, and they will need to take a different path. Don't assume you know
exactly what they need to do - you'll only drive them away.)
